Tuesday, 22 November 2011

Gratitude #13

I have learned that feeling and expressing gratitude is a skill that can be developed with practise. I’m very aware that I take the simple things in life for granted, which makes me feel like a selfish person sometimes. I want to be grateful for the “ordinary” experiences that make me smile or the little lessons I can learn from them..... not just the extraordinary ones that come only once in a while. As it says in the book, “Tragedies have a way of forcing us to confront what is important in life”. I feel like I have trained my brain to only be thankful for those “highs” or “exceptional experiences" and forget about the small but important blessings I am granted. As I think about my day so far, I realize it’s the small things that sometimes make the biggest impact. When you show gratitude to others, they feel accepted and look at their lives in a new light too. When others show us gratitude, we want to continue to help because of how it makes us feel. And the truth is we don’t have to perform huge acts to feel and receive gratitude. We can thank someone for holding the door, we can write a note of thanks to someone we take for granted or thank a friend for always being their for us. And, when something doesn’t turn out exactly as expected, we can be thankful for what we still have. Gratitude is contagious!! The Me to We philosophy reminds us all to have a spirit of gratitude. 

    Ten things I am grateful for...
1. Waking up in a safe home
2. Having the capability to have strong mobility skills
3. Being able to have fresh, clean water
4. Finding food in the kitchen when you are hungry  
5. Having the choice of what to wear everyday
6. Growing up in a loving, supporting family
7. Living in a free country
8. Having the right to believe in a religion  
9. Being able to go to school everyday
10. Extremely thankful for medication. (I don’t know what I would do after having four impacted teeth removed without any sort of pain medication!!!!)

Who supports me?

1. Family
2. Friends
3. Teachers
4. Coaches
5. Boss/ Co-workers
6. Community
7. Government
8. Church

Who mentors me?

1. Parents
2. Teachers
3. Guidance councillors
4. Coaches
5. Community
6. Boss
7. Friends

Who helps me reach my goals?

1. Family
2. Friends
3. Teammates
4. Teachers

Gifts I have...

1. Reading& writing skills: Education
2. Athletic ability
3. Fresh water
4. Safe home
5.  Family: Participation throughout school/ community 
6. No medical conditions
7. A job I enjoy
8. Caring friends
9. Nutritious food
10. Freedom

Wednesday, 9 November 2011

Midway

 Time really does fly in leadership class. I feel very involved with class projects and feel very connected to the students who work together and help create them. I enjoy assignments in Leadership because I feel inspired and know my personal skills continue to develop and advance to new levels. 
     I believe I have grown throughout the course and know my final challenges will help me find inner stength and determination to fufill my personal expectations. I feel with every day a new problem occurs and gives me the opportunity to look at it in a new way. I really feel I’m looking at things with a new perspective now and not getting as discouraged. I have faced some obstacles like working with people of all different personalities and realizing not everything is in my control. I do feel many things happen for a reason, often to teach us things and help us learn about ourselves. I think I look at challenges and trials as opportunities to grow rather than get discouraged and feel overwhelmed. I believe you develop as a leader through all types of experiences and I’m glad for every opportunity I’m given to learn and grow.
     I never want to stop learning. We should be thankful for knowledge and we need to use that knowledge wisely. We have a responsibility to stand up for what’s right even if it’s not easy. We also need to confront people in a responsible and caring way. You can’t spread rumours and play with peoples’ minds. Our motives need to be sincere so we can bring out the best in ourselves and each other.
     In the last months of Leadership class, I want to know how to deal with others when their attitude is often discouraging. Many of us are faced with several situations in life when someone can always find a way to bring you down. I want advice and guidance on how to connect with people in a positive way. I think this will force me to become more exposed and open but hopefully change for the better. For example, by sharing emotions with someone you are more vulnerable but your relationship can be more meaningful. I want people to be able to rely on me and trust me. I want to be supportive and not judgmental. I want to be positive and not discouraged. I want to be a great problem solver and a willing participant in meaningful tasks.

Wednesday, 2 November 2011

Haunted House

     Although I did not play a major role throughout the funhouse, I felt my job greeting people at the door set the tone. I was dressed as a goofy clown with vibrant makeup. I welcomed people into a small closed off area surrounded with polka dots and flowers. Carly and I told an eerie story in creepy and distorted voices. I enjoyed seeing people's reactions towards the story as we slowly opened the curtains for their mysterious adventure ahead.
     I feel I gathered many materials and used my time wisely to decorate our given area. My group was very supportive of everyone's ideas and contributed lots of hard work to our "fun" room. At times, I felt overwhelmed and distant from other groups in the class... but my group quickly noticed and reassured me everything would work out.

     I do feel I crossed a few barriers. I believe they were only personal barriers and self insecurities. I feel more secure when one person is in charge but I see that several groups working on a specific part is can be effective. Sometimes, at the end of class, people heard the bell and dashed out the door. This was when I started to panic and felt very anxious. I had some trust in our class to complete the job on time but I wasn't sure how everything would come together. I resolved this problem by making sure my area was organized and everyone knew what we needed to get done the next day. I felt this was necessary in order for people to know what materials to bring in and what jobs were still not completed. Thankfully, everyone was on the same page Thursday second period! I was relieved when I saw the final project. Everyone did an awesome job and had lots of fun!

     I feel I contributed my creative ideas and dedication. Our group deigned an outline for what we wanted our room to look like. We made sure everyone got a say, and divided up the roles evenly. I made sure everybody felt included into the discussion. I consistently contributed ideas for our fun house. I never shut anyones thoughts down or discouraged the vision other people had. If I felt their idea might produce complications, I would ask subtle questions to make them think. I also was very dedicated towards my role as a "good" clown. I captured people into my characters role, making them think about what would be behind the curtains. I really appreciated how everyone got along and supported each other.

     I personally would have made the funhouse much different if there was only one creator. I think it should have been more interesting by adding more detail. I may have had more stations and a path to follow so you couldn't see the floor. I do, however, accept that everyone have different ideas and learning styles. Speaking for my group, we divided up the jobs reflecting our personalities. For instance, Carly and I gathered material and decorations for the funhouse because we were reliable candidates for that role. And, for someone like Sophie, who is quieter, we gave her the role as a tour guide. Then she wouldn't have to talk in front of large groups or play a certain character. This worked very effectively and made everyone happy and more comfortable.

     Honesty- I was very honest throughout this whole experience. I feel as a leader you should be very honest and respectful of others. I gave my perspective on specific things and asked questions if I thought a problem might occur otherwise. Everyone wants to be heard and accepted.
     Enthusiasm- I felt my positive energy made people excited to present the funhouse on Thursday and Friday. I hoped it would be contagious and I was happily surprised! I also made sure I thanked everyone for all their hard work and helped the clowns get off all their make-up... haha.
     Organization- I felt I helped my group stay focused and organized. Not many guidelines needed to be set because everyone stayed on task. I feel I played the part of making sure everyone was keeping busy. I don't, however, feel I was pushy or controlling while doing this. I was very patient with all my group members and they did the same.
   
     My group had good time management skills. We stayed organized and stayed focused throughout the work periods. We set goals for each day in order to get everything completed. We knew that our room would set the vibe and effect peoples attitudes towards this class project. I knew I didn't want to spend loads of effort into something that didn't turn out as planned because of disorganization. I feel it really helped that everyone was excited for people to evaluate our hard work. We were all pumped to reveal our funhouse!

     If I had to evaluate myself on all my work towards the funhouse, I would give myself a 17/20. I feel I worked consistently and effectively. I contributed my skills and ideas and encouraged others to do the same. I was dedicated to bringing in materials and was a reliable group member. There are some areas where I could improve. For instance, in new situations I can be a little nervous at times. I was feeling a little nervous when we put on the fun house and maybe came across a little shy at times. I often want to step up and make more of an impact but sometimes I back off a little. I hope I can overcome this insecurity so I can be a better leader. My sister wasn't really outgoing either but I feel she became an effective leader when people gave her responsibilities and she was able to prove herself. She was always really dedicated and worked hard.